Over the past year I have really learned how powerful the mind is and the control it has on the way you live your life. Last August I decided to change the way I look at life. It all started with awareness within myself, when one day I realized that I wasn’t living in the present moment. I would be hanging out with my friends, playing tennis, watching tv, etc. when I realized my mind was never fully there. I was always thinking about the future or the past or what I would be doing within the next hour, literally anything besides what I was doing in that moment. It wasn’t an easy change, but it was well worth it. Now, that I am more mindful of my thoughts I have truly enjoyed every single day of my life over this past year and have felt an infinite amount of happiness in everything that I do.
Along with living in the present, the decisions we have made thus far have shaped the people we are today. If you think about mistakes you have made in the past you may realize how little importance they have on your life today. Everything that we have gone through has led us to where we are right now; the failures, the success, the lessons learned, the people we meet, and the relationships we have are all factors of where we are in this moment of time. One of the most important things I have learned this year, is that society is not always right. The influence it has on you is immense, but it all depends on you and what you decide to take in. Your religion, your job, your school, and your life, are all YOUR choices and no one else. Your first priority should be you and your happiness, even if it disappoints others. Always remember you aren’t here to please your parents, your family, or your friends, you are here to do what is best for you and what makes you the happiest. There are so many branches to living in the present and some of them are accepting people for who they truly are, forgiveness, and love.
Recently, I was introduced to the book The Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani. It was one of the most valuable books I have read in a long time. It discusses personal growth and how to find it, twelve areas of balance, models of reality, and much more. It completely changed my perspective on how I wake up every morning, set my goals, the way I am with my family, how I express and feel gratitude, and my views on my spiritual life. I would call this book an insight to “win” at life and I recommend it with all my heart because after reading it your life will begin to completely change for the better.
Some of my favorite quotes from the book are:
“If you can’t win, change the rules. If you can’t change the rules, ignore them.”
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma– which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your inner voice. And most important. have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything Else is secondary.”
– Steve Jobs
“I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.”
Feel free to check out Vishen Lakhiani’s website mindvalley.com/extraordinary